Manifest Your Mate!

By Jill Crosby

Finding the love of your life can be a daunting challenge these days, without having a little help! Most singles on a conscious path are relatively happy and content with their lives; however, they would usually prefer to be in a loving, spiritual partnership with a person that enhances their life and gives them the opportunity to grow and thrive in a deep, spiritual love, making life more even enjoyable!

Incorporating the following tips and techniques will help you to manifest the love of your life in no time!

Get Love: It all starts with YOU. When you love yourself unconditionally, you create loving energy towards yourself which draws loving energy in your direction. It helps to see yourself through the eyes of others; notice when others compliment you (not your looks, YOU). Look at yourself objectively and see how wonderful you are. Are you compassionate and kind towards others? Are you fun to be around? Are you intelligent and quick witted? Take inventory of all of your positive characteristics. Would you date someone like you? Would you marry yourself? If you can't say yes to these questions, then it's a good idea to make the necessary changes in your life (self) to get to that point. Once you can say "YES!!!!" you will feel the joy, exuberance and self love that I am talking about. This is a very deep feeling, and is difficult to convey through writing. Meditation and connection to Divine are musts, in my opinion, to get in touch with this DEEP self love.

To help you get to an unconditionally loving place, treat yourself to a brief meditation of self love every morning and every night (and more throughout the day if you can!): Close your eyes, take some deep breaths, get centered and relaxed. Once you are in a meditative state, feel your connection with Divine Energy and know that you are Divine. Feel your strong love for Divine (God) deep in your soul. Feel and KNOW that you are this Divine Energy. So, not loving yourself is like spitting in God's face! YOU ARE DIVINE LOVE. Bring it into every cell of your physical body, which is the physical manifestation of Divine energy/love. Feel deeply grateful, joyful and in love with yourself. Let this feeling wash you in joy and bliss. Let yourself get "blissed out" in this energy. Bathe in the love and feel grateful to be YOU. Do this everyday for at least 5 minutes when you first wake in the morning and every night before bed. Appreciate and love yourself throughout the day. Take a few breaths and think "I love me! I AM DIVINE ENERGY AND LOVE!" and feel the total acceptance and love for yourself.

It's also about being so happy and in love with yourself, that when you are with others, you are not looking at them to "complete" you or fill any holes or empty spots that you feel. You are whole, complete and in love with yourself. Love emanates from you!

Get Clear: When using the techniques of manifestation, be very clear and very specific about who you would like to draw into your life. In my consulting business I met a man who had been using a traditional, mainstream online dating site. He had been corresponding by email with an intelligent, funny, interesting woman for over 3 months. Finally, the big day came...they were finally going to meet in person! He told me how excited he was to meet this wonderful woman face to face. That day, he received an email from her saying, "Ha ha, I'm a guy!" So, when I say be clear and specific, I mean be clear and specific!

  • Most singles have a list of what they want in a mate. I've seen and heard lists that include things like; honest, faithful, funny, intelligent, financially stable, active, fit....etc.... Having a list is good, however, being SPECIFIC and getting CLEAR on what is a "MUST HAVE" and what is a PREFERENCE, is key. Must haves are things that would be deal breakers if not present. Like "he/she must be a non-smoker" and "he/she must be single, not married". A preference is, "I prefer him/her to be tall" or "I prefer him/her to be a good dancer". These are things you would like, but could live without. Make a list of your "Must Haves" and be very specific about each one.

  • Once you have your "must haves" and preferences, write two brief stories including both. First, describe your IDEAL mate as if he/she is already in your life. Have some fun with it and be sure to include as many details as possible, such as personality traits and qualities, beliefs, values and lifestyle. Make sure to include political views, level of consciousness/social/environmental awareness and anything that is important to you. Describe how this person will make you feel and what kind of interactions and energy you will experience together. For example: "My husband is the most loving, intelligent, kind, caring, thoughtful, funny, friendly, environmentally conscious, spiritual man I have ever met. I feel so appreciated, loved, and respected by him. His down-to-earth, genuine realness, huge heart and quick wit always make me smile. I love the way he treats others with such kindness and compassion. He brings out my playful, youthful spirit and makes me laugh till it hurts! Our spiritual bond is incredible and we share powerful, deep meditations and tantric love experiences often. He remembers his Divinity and helps others to do the same. He is fit and healthy and we inspire each other to be better people and to take great care of our bodies by eating healthy foods and exercising everyday....."

  • Now get your creative juices flowing and write a story describing your "ideal day" with your ideal mate. Do this in the present tense, as if it's occurring as you write. Make it multi-sensory and live it up! Include where you are living, and how you will feel. For example: "I wake up in the morning and feel the tropical breeze on my face, smell the gardenias in the air and hear the peaceful sound of the ocean waves outside our balcony door. I roll over and smile at my husband. His eyes light up as he hugs me and tells me how much he loves me. My heart swells with joy and gratitude, feeling so content and so in love! We get out of bed and eat some papayas and mangos for breakfast, enjoy a deep meditation and then go for a swim in the ocean with the dolphins that frequent the cove we live on...etc...." Go through your whole ideal day like this and you will not only be manifesting your ideal mate, you will also be creating your ideal life!

Get Real: It's time to throw Barbie and Ken in the trash and GET REAL! When you are describing your ideal mate, let things that are not very important go! If you are a woman, and you prefer a taller partner, be open to meeting someone shorter (there are a lot of incredible not-so-tall-men out there!). If you are man and you want a perfectly slender/thin woman, instead, imagine your mate active, energetic and fit. Let the specific body type go. Chemistry is a funny thing and comes in all shapes and sizes! If you prefer younger or older, know that age is extremely relative. Be open to dating outside your race too. There are many things that are more important to a loving relationship than age, race, height or weight, like children, spirituality and lifestyle. The most important thing is; how does the other person make you feel?

Get Grateful: Now let's energize your stories! Read your description of your ideal mate out loud. Imagine that he/she is ALREADY in your life and FEEL grateful, joyful, and in love! Amp up these feelings as much as you can! Then, read your "ideal day" story out loud and feel even more joy and gratitude for the beautiful life you have created together. Now, let it go and whenever you think about it, imagine the wonderful life you have together and know that it's done. Feel grateful every time you think about it. To successfully manifest, you must be confident. Any feelings of doubt or skepticism will slow down the process or even reverse it. Stay in your power by keeping the feelings of gratitude pumped up! Know you deserve a loving, spiritual relationship and get ready to meet your ideal mate!

Get Busy: This last step is critical in manifesting your mate! TAKE ACTION! Put yourself in situations where you can meet other eligible singles. Start dating and get the energy flowing. Be open to meeting/dating a variety of people "looks-wise"—remember, chemistry is a funny thing! Joining an online spiritual dating site will help you get started. By joining a spiritual dating site, you eliminate the tiresome process of weeding through thousands of people who are not serious and don't have the basic spiritual beliefs and values that you have. Put yourself in the best, targeted "pool" of conscious singles possible! Once a member, use your intuition and let Divine Energy guide you towards whom you should contact. Be pro-active and initiate contact! When dating and meeting new prospects, be authentic and real. Chris Rock jokes about singles "sending their representatives" on dates. Leave your representative at home and trust that the Divine love you feel for yourself will be reciprocated by the right person. Just relax, be yourself, have fun and enjoy the process. Continue to feel grateful in advance and watch the sparks fly! Here's to you and may you manifest your mate easily, joyfully and powerfully!

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