Four Steps for Attracting the
Love of Your Life with Feng Shui

By Michelle Ray

Are you divorced, widowed, single, or in a relationship that just isn't going anywhere? Would you like to attract a loving, conscious relationship this year? Follow these simple feng shui tips to find love more quickly and easily.

Many of us meet people easily, but seem to attract inappropriate partners. Before actually making changes in your home, it's a good idea to get clear about the type of person you're looking for. Is his educational background important to you? Do you prefer a vegetarian partner? Do you desire someone who shares your religious beliefs?

Make a list of the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual qualities your future mate will possess. In addition, it is helpful to think about what qualities you can offer your new partner. Putting both lists in writing will strengthen your vision of relationship and your confidence in your own positive qualities. It will also help you recognize whether or not that cute guy you met in yoga class has long term potential.

Clutter clearing is a key step in making space for a new relationship. Many of us tend to hold on to all kinds of items we don't really need. These objects take up physical, mental and emotional space. Let go of old belongings and you'll allow new people, energy and opportunities into your life.

Ask yourself these questions when clearing clutter: Do I use it? Do I love it? How do I feel when I see this item? Be honest with yourself. If it doesn't make you feel happy and expansive, let it go.

Your future love needs to feel that there is room in your home for him. Clean out closets, make space in the closet for his coat or change of clothes, sort through that pile of junk mail, throw away old magazines, donate that old computer sitting in the corner of your living room.

Photos, clothing, gifts, love letters and other items from previous relationships that can create blocks to receiving new people into your life. One client wanted a new partner, yet kept a photo of herself and her old love in a prominent place that she saw every time she entered her home. If you are on good terms with an old boyfriend, that's just fine, but don't let your memories keep your energy tied to the past, preventing you from moving forward.

If you can't bear to part with some special memento, put it in storage. And never keep these items in your bedroom!

Your bedroom décor should inspire feelings of relaxation, sensuality and passion. Most of us spend eight to ten hours in the bedroom, so its energy has a powerful influence on us. Create a space that evokes feelings of love and heart openness, and you'll be in the right frame of mind to connect with a new partner.

According to feng shui principles, the bedroom is meant for sleep, self-nurturing and intimate time with your partner. Decorate with this in mind.

Try to avoid working or watching TV in the bedroom. Remove TVs, computers, telephones and answering machines. If you must have a TV or computer here, make sure you cover it with a beautiful piece of cloth when it's not in use.

Are you sleeping in a bed that you shared with a former partner? If so, you're surrounding yourself with the energy of your failed relationship. It's time for new energy, and a new mattress. Invest in quality bedding, and choose pink, peach or red sheets to enhance passion and intimacy.

Decorate your bedroom with pairs of objects such as two matching bedside tables, two candles, two silk flowers, or artwork depicting happy couples. Don't display solo photos of you or other women here. Use objects that reinforce your vision of love and relationship.

Take time to create a sensual space to share with your future partner. Stimulate all of your senses and you'll be in a more receptive, openhearted place to connect with someone special.
Here are a few ideas to get you started. Have fun, be creative and think about what makes you happy:

TOUCH – purchase luxurious, high quality sheets and linens for your bed and bathroom

TASTE – keep some rich, delicious snacks to enjoy alone or with company such as dark chocolates, dessert wine, or your favorite treat

SMELL - burn rose incense each night before going to bed, or scent the home with your favorite essential oils

SIGHT – keep fresh flowers in your home, especially in the bedroom and living area; even one beautiful bloom will lift the energy

SOUND – play music that makes you feel passionate and sensual
Follow these steps and you'll be well on your way to manifesting a passionate, loving relationship this year!