You Don't Have To Be Lonely for the Holidays...
Five Proven Steps to Lasting Relationship Success

By Barbara Lynn Allen

Barbara Lynn Allen, MS MBA, CCHT, is an experienced and wise relationship guide, an expert energy healer, and an excellent clinical hypnotherapist. She uses her many talents and extensive training to support clients in their quest for fulfillment in all areas of life. Find this longtime OPEN EXCHANGE lister in our Hypnotherapy category. ©2006 by Barbara Lynn Allen. All rights reserved.

Richard had just turned 40 when he came to see me. He was an attractive, educated and successful man. Except for one thing. "So why can't I find a fulfilling relationship?" he asked me. I explained to him that there are universal laws of creation that anyone can master to manifest their heartfelt desires, and that includes relationships.

"How can that possibly be true?" asked Richard, a skeptic by nature, he felt he had tried it all from online dating to singles clubs.

I told him that for years I've been guiding people to the fulfillment of their relationship dreams by applying universal laws and hypnotherapy healing methods to resolve relationship problems.

Many people, like Richard, come to my office with concerns about finding that special person. Some people just don't know where to start; others have had a string of bad relationships and don't know what to do next. Some have been alone for a while or need to heal from a prior relationship.

These five steps ALWAYS work if applied consistently and sincerely:

1. Set a CLEAR intention. Be sure to take the time needed to know what you really want.
2. Remove all inner obstacles. Do you have limiting beliefs, self-sabotaging behavior or emotional traumas that are stopping you?
3. Take action in the world. For example, go to a club, get on line, join a singles group, and tell your friends you're available.
4. Observe results. Are you getting the results you want? Are you meeting the right kind of person? Is there still some self-sabotage, fear, limiting beliefs? If you're not getting the right results, something else needs attention. Have you made a clear choice, a firm decision to have what you say you want? Is there a conflict blocking your results?
5. Correct any problems and refocus your action. Having expert help with this part can be the golden key that unlocks the door to happiness and the removal of suffering.

Richard and I worked together to discover and resolve any emotional blocks. We found that in all of his past relationships, he had gotten scared and backed off because of unconscious imprints from his parents' troubled marriage. Once that was cleared with hypnotherapy, he was able to start dating again.

When I saw him in my office again, he reported much more ease and comfort relating to women. He told me, "It's really funny, but that feeling of dread is gone. Now I'm really enjoying myself and looking forward to the next date." Not too long after that, he fell in love and this time did not sabotage or run away. Now, he's married and his old fears are gone.

You don't have to be lonely. As my wise grandmother used to say: "There is someone for everyone." That includes you.