Relationships and Your Health

By Valerie Donner

As quoted by Len Saputo, MD, in a recent medical jour-nal, research has shown that the body needs up to 24 hours to heal from a one-hour argument! What does that tell you about the power of relationships?

Relationships are important to one's path of wholeness and healing. Discordance in relationships can create illness. It can affect all areas of life. When one is unaware of their basic fears, worries, concerns and issues, they will manifest in relationship. This occurs because our souls want healing. That is why we tend to pick partners in personal or work relationships where we can have the greatest opportunity for healing.

Since most of us have not had good relationship role models from our upbringing or society, many of us get stuck. We create relationships that have a tendency to be based on motives like "What can you do for me financially or materially to make me look better to the world." All of the wounds from the ego get raised. Struggles can ensue and health can be affected.

It is important to do your inner work, to know and understand how to consciously move through your basic core issues and wounds. When you heal the emotions behind the fears and wounds, you will find more peace in your relationships. Your body will heal.

I remember one time a woman came to me for a healing. She had gone to the emergency room a few days before she came to me. The diagnosis was appendicitis. She had a little baby and did not want to have surgery, so a friend recommended that she see me. In doing the healing work with her it came out that she had "A pressing emotional issue with her husband." After we talked about this issue and I did some energy work with her, she had a complete healing. She left looking much different from when she had entered. No surgery was required.

Another woman came to me with a pain in her foot that prevented her from working for a couple of weeks. The doctors couldn't do much for her so she came to me. The emotional issue was unspoken anger at her husband. She went home and worked on the anger. She was fine and back to work in two days.

Relationships will put you to the test. Communication is important, along with compatibly, getting out of the ego, learning how to deal with projection (Is the person telling you something about themselves when they are saying something about you?) are some of components of creating healing relationships. By successfully learning how to relate more consciously you can develop the skills to be a healthier person and have more peaceful relationships.

The body is a metaphor for the emotions. Whatever happens in the emotional body manifests in the physical body. I have an effective process that helps people to pinpoint where certain fears are lodged in the physical body that facilitates the release of the fear. It is accomplished through connecting with the inner child and soul. We then do energy work to clear the fear.

As an example, a client discovered that her biggest fear was the fear of being alone. She had a history of being in abusive relationships and would remain with the person too long due to this fear. When she scanned the physical body the fear was lodged in her left shoulder. We then went in to shift the fear at the heart and soul level with her team of helpers and mine. After a few minutes she said it felt light and that the fear was gone.

Core fears come up frequently in relationships. Whether it is the fear of abandonment, fear of not being worthy, fear of being unlovable or something else, it is important to move through the fear so that the physical healing occurs. The more aware we become in dealing with our own core issues the healthier we can become in our lives.

Healthy relationships are the key to a healthy body. When each person in a relationship takes responsibility for his or her own issues the relationship will become a healing one. This can be a bonus for an increasingly healthy body.