What is a Love Reversal?

By Keith Braselton

Keith Braselton, founder of Engage Love, offers classes and individual healing sessions.

When a child experiences an unloving action or reaction over and over every day for weeks, months and years, he/she will develop what I call a Love Reversal. In this case, the child experiences the condition so often that he/she eventually feels comforted, in a sense, by the experience. Even though the condition doesn't feel good, the child feels the condition is normal/familiar/comfortable. It's one of the ways we become programmed, so to speak.

Here's an example: Betsy's father was physically and verbally abused throughout his childhood. As a father, his interactions with Betsy are always conducted at high volume. His only way of communicating is by yelling and screaming, for example, "Why did you do that? I told you not to do that! Jesus, you never listen!" He's also prone to grabbing her and shaking her to force her to act in a particular way. Because Betsy grows up accustomed to this kind of abuse, as an adult she'll attract people to her that abuse her in a similar fashion. Emotional and physical abuse feels comfortable to Betsy. In other words, she's programmed to feel comfortable being abused.

Love Reversals like the one just described can be very obvious but they can also be very subtle. For instance, if you were raised by prejudiced parents, you might find yourself mistreating people according to their race, sex, size, looks or the way they act. Most of us are literally filled with many different types of Love Reversals, which means we've been programmed to act and react in many different unloving ways.

Love Reversals are very hard for us to find within ourselves because we feel comfortable acting and reacting in certain unloving ways. It's much easier for other people to see them in us. Most of the programming we received as children is stored in our unconscious - it is, therefore, powered by instinct. So, it can be difficult to access and change these old patterns of acting and reacting because they're so engrained within us. Even when we can see Love Reversals in ourselves, they're still difficult to heal. So, if you ever find yourself acting in an unloving way and you don't understand why, you probably have a Love Reversal working against you. We can safely say that the confused, conflicted state of our world right now is mostly being caused by the presence of Love Reversals within all of us.

Fortunately, there is a new process that enables us to grow strong enough to see and heal our Love Reversals. It's the process of learning to grow more and more loving day after day. When a person learns to concentrate on choosing love, being love, and acting/reacting in love more and more everyday, their aura literally grows so big that they become stronger than their unloving programming. This "expanded state" enables them to see their Love Reversals and heal the patterns created by their presence.

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