Choosing Your Heart's YES...

By Megan Woolever

Megan Woolever offers self-evolution programs.

Did you know that your heart says "yes" or "no" before your mind even considers the question? Re-searchers at the HeartMath Institute have discovered that the heart actually perceives things before they reach your mind. In fact, the heart actually has pre-knowledge of the information you will encounter before it is even presented! How's that for "let your heart be your guide?"

And the heart has a distinct way of saying "yes" or saying "no." When our heart says "yes" we feel it opening, like energy is flowing through us, around us, with us in a positive, harmonious way. You feel eager, enthusiastic and peaceful when the heart says "yes." There may be no rational reason why, but your heart's wisdom fills you with a sense of knowingness beyond the mind's comprehension.

The opposite is true when your heart says "no." You feel a contraction, a protection, or a shutting down. It may be subtle, in the case of an "I don't know" or "maybe" it may even be just a shadow of doubt or uncertain twinge, but these are cues from the heart telling you a "yes" would not fully open and move you into your creative flow. They tether you, hold you back a little, urge you to look before you leap.

A few years ago I read a book Buffalo Woman Comes Singing by Brooke Medicine Eagle. In it Brooke describes a process she learned to help empower her to make conscious choices that were in alignment with her passion and purpose in life. She called this process "The Absolute Yes."

Brooke says that our Absolute Yes is the "yes" our heart says fully, without reservation. The "yes" we described above. It is when we listen to this "yes" that we are brought into alignment with our destiny in life, and are in flow with the universe and its purpose for our lives. Whenever we say "yes" to things that our hearts are either unsure of or are definite "no's" we actually move ourselves out of the flow of destiny and create blocks in our system.

The truth of this is brought home in the recent film, "The Living Matrix." Doctors and scientists in this film report that our heart's rhythm is actually set by the emotions we feel. Positive emotions create a stable, harmonious rhythm in the heart, while negative emotions cause erratic heartbeats. They also say that the heart's beat sends a pulse wave through your body, aligning all the other functions and organs to the beat of the heart. Your heart is the regulator for the health of your body, and its health is set by the choices you make. You can either choose to do that which opens and strengthens your heart, or that which shuts you down and weakens you. And you make that choice again and again, every day, every hour, every minute.

The good news is that beginning to follow your "Absolute Yes" is as easy as listening to your body. You feel open, good, powerful when you hear a "yes" response in the heart. That's the easy part. For many of us, our biggest challenge is learning to say "no." We let duty, other people's expectations and pride often drive us to say "yes" when our heart is telling us otherwise. We often put others' health before our own, choosing things that shut us down or deplete us because we feel we have to. Ultimately this makes us sick, physically as well as emotionally.

So the Absolute Yes practice is this: For a week, or at minimum a day, try to only say "yes" to your Absolute Yes. Practice getting quiet enough so you can hear and feel that Absolute Yes in your heart. Then only follow its guidance and nothing else. You may be surprised at the things you say "yes" to!

And if you are finding it particularly tricky to say "no" to some things in your life, like your family or a work related event, then find something about that situation that you can feel a "yes" for and focus on that being the purpose for your participation, not the should's, must's and have to's.

One week of following your Absolute Yes and you will find that doors begin to open where you previously saw no way, and opportunities will begin to call to you that you had no idea were even a possibility. A lifetime of Absolute Yes and you will have truly lived the life you were born to live!

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