Getting Over Your Addiction To A Person
(It Works with Chocolate, too!)

By Joan Hitlin

How can I tell that I am addicted to —and not just concerned about or attracted to —this person who is making me crazy?"

Good question!

Attraction and concern are normal feelings toward people that you care about. But, when you are addicted to a person, all your feelings are magnified. These overwhelming feelings seem to take up all your psychic space, preventing you from being all that you can be in other areas of your life.

When you are addicted to a person, you may find that you are stuck in grief, loss, rage, fear or resentment. Or that you are feeling spacey, obsessed, or anxious. You might even be doing funny things, like tapping into his computer, or quizzing all her friends.

Who is the object of your obsession?

Perhaps this person is a romantic attachment and is married to someone else ... or a platonic friend who wants to stay platonic ... or "the one who got away." On the other hand, you might be obsessing about someone who "done you wrong" — a friend, co-worker or supervisor. Sometimes, you find that your energy is tied up with concern for a difficult child, parent, or partner.

I have had clients who were mesmerized by people who knew them well, and others who were hung up on someone they had never met.

The good news is that no matter how intense your longing, you can get over it!

This sort of problem used to be almost unsolvable, but now, I find that energy protocols combined with hypnotherapy really free my clients from these energy draining pre-occupations.
Energy protocols remove the charge from the problem while rebalancing your energy system. Hypnotherapy removes or reframes negative beliefs and devasting conclusions that your subconscious mind reached in response to past situations.

Both energy therapy and hypnotherapy build self-esteem and self-confidence. This allows you to trust that you can have successful and satisfying new relationships (possibly even with the current attraction!).

I am excited to be able transform the energy that my clients are wasting on their people-addictions and to watch as this wasted energy becomes the productive energy that they access to promote a life of creativity, spiritual harmony and abundance.

In 30 years of practice I've expanded my definition of creativity and also added many tools to my healing arsenal: self-hypnosis; energy therapies like EFT, BSFF, TAT, inner inquiry approaches like Focusing, and the Work of Byron Katie. I've learned powerful ways to help my clients to overcome their negative beliefs, past traumas, fears, phobias and addictions which keep them stuck.

Still, I'm blown away by the profound miracle of witnessing a client escape from what seemed to be a dead-end path... and who then discovers the unmarked path to a newly created (and creative) fate filled with meaning, purpose and soul.

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