GETTING OUT OF SHAME &
BLAME INTO RESILIENCE

Phebe Fletcher,
Marriage & Family Therapy Intern

Psychotherapy office in Lafayette,
Somatic Therapy in Albany,
ADD coaching by phone

Do you feel unworthy and inadequate, or disconnected and unmotivated? Are you self-attacking, other-attacking, withdrawn, or avoidant? If some of this fits, you may be prone to shame.

If you are shame-prone, you are already good at looking at yourself negatively. Learn to turn the agony into an asset. Shame brings our attention to things that others will miss. It can lend us a depth not as available to less reflective personalities. Through the work of our sessions, gain an ability to respect your very human qualities and discover new tools to navigate shame and recover your natural interest and motivation.

Shame is a powerful and jarring emotion that causes us to flush, look away from people, and ruminate. It grabs our attention and stops us in our tracks. It clouds our thinking and stops our other emotions. This is bad enough, but in too many situations shame is reinforced and may lead to reactivity such as chronic depression, divorce, social inhibition, under-achieving, and even addiction. In our society, shame isn't talked about, so it persists and people don't get the help they need.

Shame evolved to jolt us when we were getting into risky situations. It's not about you. I can help you identify your shame that is affecting your life and give you the skills you need. I am an informed and sensitive guide, who will help you to rebuild your ability to connect to yourself and others.

Phebe Fletcher, MA, psychotherapist intern with ten years of experience treating many facets of shame.

Call (510) 967-6267 if you'd like to arrange for a free 15 minute phone session to help in deciding whether working together would be a good match.

Supervised by Cindy Hill-Ford,MFT #38246.